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Susan Jade's avatar

Very thought provoking! While I would have to reflect on taking up space as a female as I’ve always worked in male dominated industries and never felt the stigma (that I can quickly recall- I’m sure it’s there!), where I did feel like I was taking up space was as an American living in the UK. I always felt that American mannerisms or loudness were frowned upon. That the only way was the proper English way. I was always on edge wondering WHEN I would misstep next. It certainly created general low level anxiety until the last few years I lived there when I stopped caring and actually relished more in my “cringey” (perceived by the English) behavior and the reaction of the English. 😂

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Caterina's avatar

What your reader wrote and what you reported in your newsletter is so incredibly relatable! Whenever I found myself waiting for something or someone and purposely avoided mindlessly scrolling on my phone, I have always felt like my 'not looking busy enough' increased my likelihood to attract weirdos. It's exhausting to be wary of your surroundings and strangers all the time. And I feel like this power difference in how people can inhabit public space (relaxed/careless vs wary/anxious) is not talked about enough, so thank you for writing this awesome article!

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